The problem with a traumatic event in childhood is that there was something missing that the Child needed. You need to identify what that was.
It might have been a lack of ability.
The Child lacked the ability to cope with what was happening. It wasn’t able to make sense of what was happening. There was confusion. When there’s confusion, fear will soon follow.
It could have been a lack of support.
There was no one there to help the Child. Who wasn’t there that the Child wanted or needed?
There could be unresolved grievances toward this person calling for forgiveness. Even when the person is missing from the event if they came to mind, they need to be cleared. e.g. the child wants her Mommy.
It could be that what was happening in the event was too much for the Child to handle alone. Aloneness can be a big factor because the Child was feeling isolated and vulnerable.
Uncover these 3 key aspects:
The aspects that you need to uncover so they can be resolved are:
1. Sensory Perceptions.
What is the Child seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching?
What decisions are being made about self, others, life in general?
3. Feelings and emotion.
What is the Child feeling physically? Where in the body is s/he experiencing that feeling? What emotion might that be?