The problem with a traumatic event in childhood is that there was something missing that the Child needed. You need to identify what that was. For example, it might have been a lack of ability or a lack of support.
Lack of Ability: The Child lacked the ability to cope with what was happening. It wasn’t able to make sense of what was happening. There was confusion. When there’s confusion, fear will soon follow.
Lack of Support: There was no one there to help the Child. Who wasn’t there that the Child wanted or needed? There could be unresolved grievances toward this person calling for forgiveness. Even when the person is missing from the event if they came to mind, they need to be cleared. e.g., the child wants her Mommy.
It could also be that what was happening in the event was simply too much for the Child to handle alone. 'Aloneness' can be a big factor because the Child was feeling isolated and vulnerable. This generates fear.
3 Key Aspects to Uncover:
The aspects that you need to uncover so they can be resolved have to do with the perceptions, thoughts and feelings of the Child.
1. Sensory Perceptions: What is the Child seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching?
2. Thoughts: What decisions are being made about self, others, life in general?
3. Feelings and emotions: What is the Child feeling physically? Where in the body is s/he experiencing that feeling? What emotion might that be?
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