Some people think it’s up to you to do all the work. They’re going to lie back, have a nap, and presto-chango. That’s not hypnosis. It’s magic. It’s unrealistic. After all, it’s their mind. So, during the intake process you need to assess the client’s expectations for the healing process.
The “fix me” attitude is a problem.
This is en-cultured, so it’s not the client’s fault. They’re not being difficult. It’s just what they learned. The problem is - it won’t get them what they need.
It’s not like they’re dropping the car off to get the brakes fixed. That old model of the mind as a machine is outdated. And it contributes to shame and vulnerability and dependency.
We need to put an end to those things.
Every problem a person brings you is rooted in some kind of past experience. The cause of the problem is always going to be unique to that individual. So you won’t know what it is. So, you can’t treat it with a one-size-fits-all approach.
Pills and protocols need to be customized to the client.
Dr. Gerd Hamer of the German New Medicine says – Every symptom is the result of a life experience AND it serves a biological purpose. That biological purpose he refers to is the Subconscious Mind’s Prime Directive – to ensure our survival.
The Subconscious Mind always has a very good reason for doing what it’s doing. Your job as a healer is to respect that and recognize that you’re dealing with a whole person.
They’re not broken. So you can’t fix them.
The Subconscious Mind is the Feeling Mind. Emotions come from the Subconscious Mind. And they serve a biological purpose. So you can’t just override a feeling or an emotion because it serves the Prime Directive of ensuring survival.
This means you cannot suggest away an emotion because emotions come from the Subconscious Mind. If you try to get rid of an emotion, you may succeed. But the results will most likely short-lived. And in some cases, it can even make things worse.
If you want a lasting result, focus on uncovering the underlying Subconscious need. Then you can find a way to satisfy that need in a way that doesn’t require the client to suffer.
Something else you can assess for during the intake is how willing the client is to participate in their own healing. You need a client who is willing to take responsibility for doing their own work because you can’t do it for them.
So how do they feel about homework?
In some cases, homework is going to be appropriate for the client. Not always, but some clients will benefit from having some between-session assignments. Homework also gives you a way to test the results. So during the intake take a pulse on the client’s attitude with respect to doing their own self-healing work.
Are they willing to participate in their own healing between sessions? Or are they holding onto the “fix me” attitude?
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