October 23

7 Forgiveness Facts I Learned from My Cat

Therapeutic Forgiveness


If you call a dog it will come to you.  If you call a cat it will take a message and get back to you.

Cats are notoriously independent creatures.  So suggesting that a cat has anything to teach us about forgiveness probably seems ridiculous.

But what if cats are actually enlightened creatures working tirelessly for the betterment of mankind …

Would that make their seemingly self-centered behavior more forgivable?

Probably not.  I know.  But if you’re a hypnosis practitioner you’ll “get” these 7 feline facts about forgiveness.

Feline Fact #1.
Forgiveness means not taking things personally.

Have you noticed how a cat will go directly to the one person in the room that’s not comfortable around the feline species?

Precious knows that if there’s a problem it’s not her problem.  It’s all about that person.  It’s their thoughts, their feelings, their perceptions that are making them feel uncomfortable.

Precious knows not to take things personally.  But being that she’s such an enlightened creature she’s willing to offer herself in service by giving your guests the opportunity to change those painful perceptions from the past.  Even when it means making them sneeze.

That’s forgiveness.

Feline Fact #2.
Forgiveness is for you.

Chastise a dog and it will lower its gaze and look remorseful.  Share your opinion with Precious and she will most likely exit the vicinity until you settle down.

Precious knows that forgiveness is all about taking the high ground.  That’s why she spends so much time on the kitchen counters.

Sleeping on the top of the refrigerator is an elevated state.  Why don’t you know this?

Precious recognizes you’re ignorant of things she takes for granted.  So she forgives you.

She also knows that your forgiveness of her behavior will benefit you.  So she will continue the behavior until you see the light and change your attitude.  Then you’ll be free.

Until then … why continue trying to teach an old dog new tricks when you’re dealing with a cat?

Forgive her and you’ll set yourself free.

You’re worth it.

Feline Fact #3.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone what happened.

Nobody’s perfect.

If Precious was capable of perfect grace and agility she’d be a gymnast.  So she knocked over a few things  …  Stuff got broken …  The sofa got shredded … It happens!

She’s not saying it was the right thing to do … but, hey, it’s over.  The past is the past.

Let it go and you’ll feel better.

Like Precious.

Feline Fact #4.
You don’t have to like a person to forgive them.

When Precious demands to be fed and then refuses you lap time, it’s not that she’s ungrateful.  It’s just that she recognizes her need for “me” time.

As far as Precious is concerned it’s all “me” time.  But after Precious, you definitely come first.

Just know that when you insist on cuddling during “me time” that’s bordering on abuse.

Precious understands this doesn’t have to define her.  And she doesn’t have to like you to forgive you.  She just needs to free her mind to focus on more important things.  So a few swats and scratches will quickly deliver the message.  Loud and clear.

“The sooner you let go, the sooner you’ll start feeling better.”

Feline Fact #5. You don’t have to tell a person you forgive them.

When Precious wakes you at 4:00 AM, yelling at the neighbor’s cat, it’s because she has a right to defend her boundaries.   She’s merely asserting her right to express her truth.

As soon as he agrees with her on the matter, the conflict will be over.  And all will be forgiven.

Just not forgotten.

Precious understands that while you don’t have to tell a person you forgive them.  Telling them off, however, will certainly set things right.

Feline Fact #6.
Forgiveness feels good.

When Precious upchucks on the carpet she does so for a very good reason.  If feels good to get it out.

Precious knows not to hold things in.  That only makes things worse.  So if it doesn’t feel good she knows what to do – let it come up and get it out.

Then it’s over.

Besides, once it’s out in the open you can feel proud because you’re no longer carrying around all that negativity that generates internal pressure.

Forgiveness feels good.  So, it’s the smart thing to do.

Feline Fact #7.
Forgiving sets you free to begin anew.

Precious knows that forgiveness isn’t something you do just once.   It’s something you do over and over again.   And she’s dedicated to ensuring you really get this.

This means that when you have company coming over … Precious will be there as a reminder not to take things personally.

When you catch her on the counters or taking a nap on top of the refrigerator remember …. she’s doing it for you. 

When she breaks something (again) forgiving doesn’t make it right.  But it’s the right thing to do.  Right?

When you’re expecting cuddles only to be dished out a little tough love you’ll know – it’s time to let go.

And you’ll know it’s over when she’s done telling off the neighbor’s cat.  (Usually not until around 4:00 AM.)

Just know that she’ll keep doing these things until you finally get it.  That’s how much she loves you.

So the next time she looks you in the eye and says, “Meow” you’ll know it’s her special way of saying, “I love you.”  And she’ll mean it.

Even when her food bowl is empty.

That’s true forgiveness.


About the author 

Wendie Webber

With over thirty years of experience as a healing practitioner, Wendie brings a broad range of skills to her approach to regression to cause hypnosis. She combines a gentle, yet commanding way of presenting with a thorough, clear and systematic approach to helping healing practitioners to make sense of regression hypnotherapy.

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